newsletter january 2009

Dear friends,

Best wishes to you and all your family for 2009!  This is the latest newsletter from the Muslim-Christian marriage support group in the UK . …………………………………………………………………………………………….

Stop the Gaza Massacre-All London Rally- Sat 17 Jan 2pm,Trafalgar Square. If you are thinking of attending this Habib has  more details mansour60@hotmail.com  Also would anyone be interested in meeting up with others in m/c group?

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CONTACT REQUESTS: 

A Christian South African woman and a Moroccan Muslim man (in South Africa) recently married would really appreciate contact with others in or from South Africa.    If you’d like to be in touch let me know -ed……………………………………………………………………………………….

Posted on the Interfaith marriage board:  www.interfaithmarriage.org.uk

Hi everyone! I recently signed up as a member after following the discussion boards for quite a while… my Christian fiance and I (I’m a Muslim) would like to get married and would love to have a nikah. I’m currently in Denmark but neither of us are Danish and would basically be open to having it anywhere (even the UK, or the US…my fiance is American). If anyone knows of an imam who could officiate, I would really appreciate the info. 

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hello my name is Sarfraz Manzoor and I am a writer with the Guardian newspaper. I am interesting in writing a feature about mixed faith relationships. As someone from a Pakistani Muslim background this is of personal interest to me. I want to talk to couples from different religions- Christian/Muslim, Muslim/Judiasm and Muslim/Hindu for example- at different stages of their relationship. Perhaps you have been dating but not sure to take it to the next step, or happily married for ten years or happily dating but now preparing to talk to the family. i want to look at the challenges that being in a mixed faith relationship carries, how to deal with differences, thinking about children, how to negotiate a way through all that and still stay in love with the other person. I know that this is a senstive area so complete discretion is assured- if you want me to change names, or not be photographed that is fine but ideally i would like to photograph you otherwise there will be nothing to illustrate the article. If you want to read my previous work or watch or listen to my radio and television documentaries feel free to google me or visit my website sarfrazmanzoor.co.uk and if you are interested or want to know more then email me at sarfraz.manzoor@guardian.co.uk

  www.sarfrazmanzoor.co.uk

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Equality and Human Rights Commission launches Power List to celebrate achievements of professional Muslim women
The Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) has launched the Muslim Women Power List in association with The Times newspaper and Emel magazine.  The Power List is a celebration of Muslim women within the working community in Britain who have already reached the top of their chosen field or are on the fast track to success.
The Commission is now accepting nominations for the list to be revealed at The Lowry Hotel in Manchester on the 24th March 2009.  Any British Muslim woman over the age of eighteen and in employment may apply – nominations may be submitted by or on behalf of an individual.  Nominations can be submitted until 13 February 2009 via www.thelist2009.com <http://www.thelist2009.com/>
There are currently over 100,000 Muslim women working in Britain.  Recent focus group research* conducted by the Commission revealed that Muslim women wanted to succeed in education and at work.  Many had high career aspirations and wanted to return to work after having children and combine family life with a career.
This is the first time an organisation has sought to identify and celebrate professional Muslim women in this way.  The project is piloted this year with a view to maintaining a network of women who can benefit from each others’ experiences of forging a career. Trevor Phillips, Chair of the Equality and Human Rights Commission, said:
“Society is in the habit of putting labels on people.  There aren’t many groups I can think of who are more stereotyped yet less understood by the wider community than working Muslim women.  I hope our first Muslim Women Power List will make the rest of Britain sit up and take note – many members of the Muslim community are making a valuable economic and social contribution to our future.” The Equality and Human Rights Commission is the Government’s statutory body charged with challenging discrimination and promoting fairness and human rights in Britain – identifying groups in society whose talents may go unrecognised forms a key strand of its work.
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from the latest Elijah interfaith newsletter which can be downloaded from http://www.elijah-interfaith.org/index.php?id=870

“The Universal and the Particular”. A Conference of muslim theologians in Istanbul.  a group of Muslim scholars from Turkey, Pakistan, the United Arab Emirates, South Africa, the UK and the US gathered in Istanbul on Dec. 15-16, 2008, as part of an ongoing project, funded by the Rockefeller Brothers Fund, of developing a contemporary Muslim theology of world religions. The challenge that informed the meeting was, in the words of Seyyed Hossein Nasr: “How can we preserve the religious truth, religious orthodoxy, and dogmatic structure of the Islamic tradition and yet open ourselves to knowledge of other traditions and accept them as valid roads to God?”

In theory the question could be approached from several perspectives:

1. The syncretistic-spiritualist approach that proposes that all religions participate in a higher, more-ultimate truth, that transcends their particular, and ultimately limited, representation.

2. The public policy approach, driven by the social sciences, that enables the fair distribution of resources and negotiated participation (of diverse interest groups) in the shared public space. It achieves this through recognizing diversity and managing it through multi-cultural social programs.

3. The committed theological approach that seeks to provide a theological worldview and cosmology that maintains a mission to contribute significantly to the human community; while at the same time maintaining its objectivity through its adherence to a set of ethical principles governing its relationship to its environment and neighbors.

The focus of the Istanbul conference was on this third approach and how it can be carried out from a Muslim perspective. A paper summarizing the group’s work will be available in a few months.

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 events at St Ethelburgas:  events@stethelburgas.org

Thurs 22 Jan 6.30 – 8.30pm

Peacemaking and Anger
Gene Stoltzfus, founder of Christian Peacemaker Teams, explores how anger can be a
barrier and a tool for peacem aking when it is transformed into an expression of love and
how this plays out when confronted with situations of overt violence. In association with
Christian Peacemaker Teams nonviolence / confronting violence

And on Sunday 25 January When others hurt us, we suffer. We are given feelings of hatred, anger and revenge which distort our lives.

St E’s offers again a safe, supported space in which we can help each other begin to let go and see our woundedness as a source of moral strength. Includes a healthy lunch.

 if you are interested in joining us contact simon@stethelburgas.org

St Ethelburga’s Centre for

Reconciliation and Peace

78, Bishopsgate, London, EC2N 4AG

Tel: +44 (0)20 7496 1618

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latest news from the Christian-Muslim forum:

includes a  report on Christian and Muslim girls weekend in Wales. Also invitation for participants on a Christian-Muslim trip to Bosnia this October. 

www.christianmuslimforum.org

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this month’s recommended websites

http://www.firstimpressionslastlonger.com/home.php

Sarah recommends this website with excellent products for all eco-warriors…

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 http://www.presenceandengagement.org.uk /   

A new Church of England site with many resources for churches and people in multi-religious contexts in UK

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http://faculty.virginia.edu/haidtlab/mft/index.php?t=home

moral foundations theory: this may not float your boat!  -but just in case anyone else has found that an m/c relationship gets you interested in how values are different/ the same/ or  sort of different /sort of the same, and what faith and culture has to do with it, this is a good website, run by Jonathan Haidt, a social psychologist at the University of Virginia. Just to get your attention there’s a prize of $1000 for identifying a ‘universal moral  foundation that’s not been thought of yet!  

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http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk   marriage and relationship support website   : a friendly site with advice on communication, conflict, commitment and  where to go for help.   

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www.mixtogether.org  this month is organising a mail-shot campaign. This will be directed towards the Asian media broadcasters, in the hope of increasing publicity for the issues faced by mixed couples and for the MixTogether website.

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Book spot “ In Love but Worlds Apart”  by G Shelling and J Fraser-Smith:  Insights questions and tips for the intercultural couple.  https://secure.authorhouse.co.uk/BookStore/ItemDetail~bookid~51338.aspx

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Next meeting: it’ll soon be time to start planning the spring meeting of the group in Southall.  Do you have ideas for this or another meeting: whether it’s activities for kids or someone you’d like to have as a speaker?  If so we’d like to hear from you.    Or maybe you can’t come to meetings but would be able to give a bit of time to meet or e-mail someone else in an m/c relationship?  Might your insight or just willingness to listen help others?  

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World conflicts and hard economic times may put couples and families under extra stress.  If this ever gets you down,  I hope it helps to know that you’re not alone.  Being a mixed faith couple isn’t always easy, but I can say, having had the privilege of meeting or talking to most of you, what wonderful people you are in this group.  There’s a lot we still need to do. Let’s keep talking!

 

All the best to you and your family, God bless,  Allah Hafiz

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